Bible Questions Answered:
“My boy friend and I have been going
together for over a year now, and he wants us to have sex. I don't
think this is ok, but I am confused on the whole issue.....”
Sheryl/ Huntington, New York U.S.A.
Bible Answer:
Here is what the Apostle Paul told the
Thessalonians.
I Thessalonians 4:1-12 NLT
1 Finally, dear brothers and
sisters, we urge you in the name of The Lord Jesus to live in a
way that pleases God, as we have taught you. You live this way
already, and we encourage you to do so even more.
2 For you remember what we taught
you by the authority of The Lord Jesus.
3 God’s will is for you to be
holy* (Sanctification KJV) , so stay away from all sexual
sin.
4 Then each of you will control his
own body and live in holiness* and honor—
5 not in lustful passion like the
pagans who do not know God and His ways.
6 Never harm or cheat a Christian
brother in this matter by violating his wife, for The Lord avenges
all such sins, as we have solemnly warned you before.
7 God has called us to live
holy*(Holiness - KJV) lives, not impure lives.
8 Therefore, anyone who refuses to
live by these rules is not disobeying human teaching but is rejecting
God, who gives His Holy Spirit to you.
9 But we don’t need to write to
you about the importance of loving each other, for God Himself has
taught you to love one another.
10 Indeed, you already show your
love for all the believers throughout Macedonia. Even so, dear
brothers and sisters, we urge you to love them even more.
11 Make it your goal to live a quiet
life, minding your own business and working with your hands, just as
we instructed you before.
12 Then people who are not
Christians will respect the way you live, and you will not need to
depend on others.
*Holy, Holiness-(Sanctification -
KJV) Greek: Hagiasmos (Hag-ee-as-mos): Purification, i.e. (the
state) purity; a purifier: -holiness, sanctification.
The Word:
Adultery: Sexual
immorality, by the married.
Fornication: Sexual
immorality, by unmarried singles.
Exodus 20:14 KJV
Thou shalt not
commit adultery.
Proverbs 6:32,33 KJV
32 But whoso committeth adultery
with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth
his own soul.
33 A wound and dishonor shall he
get; and his reproach shall not be wiped away.
Matthew 5:27,28
KJV
27 Ye have
heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit
adultery:
28 But I say
unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath
committed adultery with her already in his heart.
Matthew 15:19 KJV
For out of the heart proceed evil
thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts,
false witness, blasphemies:
Romans 1:28-32 KJV
(Notice the group, fornicators are grouped in.)
28 And even as they did not like to
retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a
reprobate 0mind, to do those things which are
not convenient;
29 Being filled with all
unrighteousness, fornication, wickedness, covetousness,
maliciousness*; full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity*;
whisperers,
30 Backbiters, haters of God,
despiteful, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to
parents,
31 Without understanding, covenant
breakers, without natural affection, implacable, unmerciful:
32 Who knowing the judgment of God,
that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do
the same, but have pleasure in them that do them.
*Maliciousness-Greek:
Kakia (Kak-ee-ah): Badness, i.e. depravity, trouble: -evil,
malice (iousness), wickedness.
*Malignity-Greek:
Kakoetheia (Kak-o-ay-thi-ah): Bad character, i.e.
mischievousness:-malignity.
I Corinthians 6:9-13,18-20 KJV
9 Know ye not that the unrighteous
shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived:
neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor
effeminate (homosexuality), nor abusers of themselves with mankind,
10 Nor thieves, nor covetous,
nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the
kingdom of God.
11 And such were some of you: but ye
are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name
of the Lord Jesus, and by The Spirit of our God.
12 All things are lawful unto me,
but all things are not expedient: all things are lawful for me, but I
will not be brought under the power of any.
13"...the body is not
for fornication, but for The Lord; and The Lord for the body.
18 Flee fornication. Every
sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth
fornication sinneth against his own body.
19 What? know ye not that your
body is The Temple Of The Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye
have of God, and ye are not your own?
20 For ye are bought with a price:
therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are
God's.
Galatians 5:19-21 KJV
19 Now the works of the flesh are
manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication,
uncleanness, lasciviousness*,
20 Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred,
variance*, emulations*, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies,
21 Envyings, murders, drunkenness,
revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I
have also told you in time past, that they which do such
things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.
*Lasciviousness-Greek:
Aselgeia (As-elg-i-a): Mean, filthy, lasciviousness, wantonness.
*Variance-Greek:
Eris (Er-is): Quarreling, wrangling: contention, debate, strife,
variance.
*Emulations-Greek:
Zelos (Dzay-los): Heat, i.e. zeal (in a favorable sense, ardor;
in an unfavorable one, jealousy, as of a husband , or an enemy,
malice): emulation, envy, fervent mind, indignation, jealousy, zeal.
Ephesians 5:3 KJV
But fornication, and all
uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you,
as becometh saints;
Colossians 3:5 NLT
So put to death the sinful,
earthly things lurking within you. Have nothing to do with sexual
immorality (fornication KJV), impurity, lust, and evil
desires..."
Jude 1:7 KJV
Even as Sodom and Gomorrah, and the
cities about them in like manner, giving themselves over to
fornication, and going after strange flesh, are set forth for
an example, suffering the vengeance of eternal fire.
II Peter 2:12-14
NLT
12 These false teachers are like
unthinking animals, creatures of instinct, born to be caught and
destroyed. They scoff at things they do not understand, and like
animals, they will be destroyed.
13 Their destruction is their reward
for the harm they have done. They love to indulge in evil pleasures
in broad daylight. They are a disgrace and a stain among you. They
delight in deception even as they eat with you in your fellowship
meals.
14 They commit adultery with their
eyes, and their desire for sin is never satisfied. They lure unstable
people into sin, and they are well trained in greed. They live under
God’s curse.
I Corinthians 6:18 KJV
Flee fornication.
Every sin that a man doeth is
without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth
against his own body.
